What labels are getting in your way? Can you imagine living your life without the expectations and pressure from others? What if I told you that you can. I’m doing it and let me tell you it is absolutely freeing and life changing. This journey is ever changing, yet it’s the greatest adventure of my life. In order to find yourself you must be willing to let go and create space so that the real you can show up. How would your lifelook if you began living unapologetically as the best version of you? In the last seven days I have traveled from the West Coast to the East Coast, with a brief stop in the Midwest. A lot was packed into this week and honestly I feel that it’s bringing exactly where I need to be.
This year as a whole has been one of much growth, by letting the things that no longer serve me, go. So why is traveling from coast to coast such a big deal? I’m so glad you asked. While I’ve been doing a lot of work all year long to better understand myself, some significant labels were affixed to me on each coast over the years. Though I didn’t ask for the them, they were given and perhaps some I was trying on but they didn’t stick,because it’s not who I am or needed to be.
Let’s begin with California. I visited there as a child and remember feeling so amazingly good there. I was allowed to be curious and have many adventures with my little brother. Together we explored the outdoors and I soaked up all the new places, spaces and people I could while we visited a family member. Several years ago I visited the same area as an adult and it was yet another adventure, but not the good kind. I got tripped up on myself and my own desire to feel needed and seen that I eventually fell flat on my face. Though I learned many valuable lessons, at avery high cost, I also began to really understand who I was and who I’m not.
Going back there I now know who I really am and what I’m about, I decided to have a new adventure. This one was incredible. It was scary, I didn’t know if my past would come and tackle my thoughts, if I could even be there without having an emotional breakdown. You know what, some past memories tried to enter my mind. Yet I didn’t mind at all. Instead of panicking, I pushed those memories aside and chose my own adventure. One that was fully in alignment with me. Not my labels or the expectations of others, 100% me. It felt so empowering and liberating to follow my heart. This new experience allowed me to take that piece of me I thought I left there, along for the ride. I took it back and can now place it where I want to. It’s pretty small, not nearly as big as I had imagined. Fast forward a week. I find myself in the space where I grew up. Driving back my old driveway, which is almost 1/4 mile back into the woods, so many memories, feelings, emotions come rushing back.This place is where my adventure, curiosity, need for space, love for nature, overwhelming happiness and sadness occurred. This place is where I first felt labeled. I was the hyperactive kid, who had desires, preferences that were not meant for her. That’s what messages I began to receive from myfamily. Granted, they didn’t know, it wasn’t intentional. However that doesn’t make it any less real to me. As a child, this was where I first learned to suppress my desires. Now nearly 20 years later, I stand in this place. I can see the little girl, who was once me, swinging on the tree swing in the front yard. Running through the fields, playing in the dirt, and doing her best to be the person she was told she could be. Tears run down my cheeks as I get to tell her she made it. Her desires no longer need to be suppressed, rather she gets to live them. See them, be curious with them and have the adventures she always dreamed. Little girl, you are no longer invisible. I see you. You are amazing, you are enough. Does this story resonate with you? What do you need to tell the younger you? What did she/he most need to hear? Is that still true for you today? I invite you to join me with a community of others who have decided to blaze their own trail. You are welcome here, in this space to begin to unpack the very things you may be hiding. Learn to release them and fill your life with all the things that truly matter in your heart. Check out my Who Are You Without The Labels Program, Join the newsletter or simply reach out to me via e-mail. There’s no need to do this alone and I promise to be very gentle with your story and you begin living the life of your dreams.