Why is that women especially have a difficult time accepting that they are worthy of the dreams planted deep in their hearts? It seems we know that we are worthy of greatness but believing that the greatness is for us to partake, seems to be where we get hung up. Everyday I come across a women who falls in this category. It doesn’t matter if she is a busy stay at home mom, a professional mom/woman, retired or a college student. Women still allow themselves to believe that they are not worthy to have…the things they know they are in their hearts.
This kills me, yet I have been one of the women in the non believing category also. Speaking from personal experience it seems that though we have come along way, as young girls we are still taught to find a man and support his dreams. I’m not recalling anything in my childhood where my mother was encouraged to seek out her true purpose and follow her heart. Unless, of course that meant at the grocery store in regard to creating a fantastic meal for the dinner table. This is not to say that my dad isn’t supportive of my mom, but it’s just the way things were. While I do think that we have made some progress it seems women in general are still scared to accept that what they know to be true in their heart of hearts, can become reality. We know it but just don’t believe it is for us.
I feel very blessed to have such a supportive husband, their is no one better at cheering me on, than him. I can remember my first “real” job. I started just after we married in 1996. I accepted a chair side position working at a local dental office. Working with the doctors in that practice was one of the best things for me. It was here that I realized I really could be anything, ANYTHING I wanted to be. Before then, I grew up in a world where only the rich were able to have careers and the rest of us were doomed to a life of retail or factory work. Please don’t take that the wrong way. I have the utmost respect for people who enjoy retail and factory work and acknowledge that these types of industries and jobs are important for our economy and so much more. For some people this is living the dream and I can appreciate that, but for me, this was never enough. Even as a child I had big dreams.
When I was a child, I had the coolest Barbie house, it was in a closet and my favorite Barbie was the business Day and Night Barbie. I loved how she lived, she was in charge of her own destiny and she…lived. She had the coolest life. She worked hard and played hard. What did I know I was a kid. I really don’t know if how I played with my Barbies chorales to my adult life, although it would be interesting to study sometime. My point though is that no one ever told me that I could or couldn’t have the life I dreamed. It was something that I learned though the environment that I was exposed to me. It wasn’t until I was married with children that I realized all those Doctors, Lawyers, Executives and so on were people just like ME. They simply made choices to direct them toward a specific goal.
So what makes someone more worthy of reaching their purpose or goal than another? NOTHING! You are worthy of reaching your deepest hearts desire. The problem that many women face is that they are scared and they don’t take the time to really lean in to what that desire is. We tend to make excuses of why we can’t or shouldn’t, because if we were to become our truest version of self that would likely change some things in our life and the fear of the unknown is quite frankly, paralyzing. Thus, we know but don’t believe.
Rather than live a life where you pretend that you are something you are not, live in your strengths. Love the people closest to you enough to be honest with yourself. I’m not suggesting that you leave your family behind to go find yourself, but I am saying be fair to them by being your authentic self. I’m sure you can find a middle ground if you try. Choose to believe, make a plan and go! I’m here to tell you that YOU are worthy, yes YOU. There’s so much more I could share on this subject but I will save that for later. If you have any questions or want to explore finding your true authentic self I would be happy to help you with that journey. Simply message me and we can develop a tailored plan for you.
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