This week has not been the best week for me. I am emotionally drained yet I still hold on and keep moving forward. Sunday was National Walk in Stilettos Day, I had been planning to attend this day for awhile. It is a day for women entrepreneurs to get together and share inspiration and leadership, the women who spoke on this day were truly courageous and exceptional. Before I share more about my experience with the #stilettosday, I want to tell you how I came to learn about this organization.
My life has not been an easy one; it has been full of disappointment and hurt. Yet I’m not one to feel bad for myself or wallow in my sorrow, instead it is something that I have been able to use in resilience allowing me to become stronger. Despite the negative I still feel that I have a higher calling. That calling is to help other women, to provide guidance so they can avoid some of the pain that I have experience, but more so to let them know that they are not alone, I can be encouraging for them. The hurdle that I kept coming across was that I didn’t know what vehicle to use to get this message out to all of you, women who just want some encouragement and to know that there is hope. About a year ago on a Friday evening I was at home relaxing, flipping through the channels on the television when something caught my attention. It was Rock Center with Brian Williams; he was talking about a group of women entrepreneurs who help each other succeed. I watched the story and thought this is amazing that a woman would be so passionate about helping other women that she would focus an entire organization around the concept. The organization is called, Stiletto Woman. They have groups around the country, inspiring women leaders to change our world for the better, by living their purpose. I am still learning much about this group but it did inspire me to see what was available in my neighborhood. I did what anyone would do, I googled and googled. There was nothing coming up for my local area so I got a strange idea to see what I could find on twitter. That is where I found the Network of Women In Business, to my delight there was a local chapter in my area. I pulled up the website and reached out to them right away. About a week later I attended my first meeting where I met an outstanding woman, Kola Olaosebikan, who had a message that I needed to hear. The topic for that meeting was on blogging, which was something that I wanted to do and thinking about for a long time. She gave me the extra kick to go forward, which is how I got here.
Now back to #stilettoday on Sunday. This was my first event with the organization. My hope was to get some tools that I needed to move forward with my vision and figured it would be great if one of the speakers inspired me to get to the next level. Sunday was a busy day in my household, church, preparing for the week ahead, etc. so I missed the first two speakers. I dialed in for a session called “6 months to live”. The premise was that this speaker was going to talk about conquering fear. Jacqueline Boone blew me away with her kind words of wisdom, bravery and honesty. She said things like, “Learn how to be comfortable in the uncomfortable”, “Feel the fear and sit with it for a moment. Fear is something we all feel. But you have choice. Get conscious, focus and move through it.” “What we resist persists.” There is so much more but this was exactly what I needed to hear.
Timing is everything. Sometimes we have people in our lives for reasons that we cannot explain. Life isn’t always about us, usually it’s about the impact we have on others. I was reminded of this on the call this weekend, when one of the presenters posed the question, “Who is not getting the help they need because of your fear?” This is a powerful statement and one that reignites with me in the deepest way. We all have a purpose, a story to tell, but are you brave enough to share your story? What will you choose; will others miss out because of your fear or will you dig deep and have the courage it takes to stand tall and walk through the fear?
I still have a lot to learn on this journey of life, but I am not going to do it chained to my fears. I know that I have all the tools I need to succeed within my heart. My heart tells me to press on, for me to be me and allow God to be God. One foot in front of the next will lead me down that path that helps me fulfill my purpose. What is your purpose? How will you move through your fear? Who will you inspire today?