I was on a conference call where my friend Danielle Watson was being interviewed when I heard the speaker admit that she had a designer handbag in her closet for a long time, but was too embarrassed to use it. Rather, she carried a $30.00 bag that really said nothing about who she is, her personality or what she has to offer the world. This got me thinking, “How many other women have designer handbags in their closet but are too ashamed to pull them out and use them?“.
You see from my perspective, women are usually the nurtures and the ones ready to give. Why is it that we feel guilty to receive? Like the designer handbag we have so much to offer the world yet we feel it isn’t our place, or we worry what others will think of us and we are embarrassed to believe that we are the designer handbag.
Why is it so difficult for women to see themselves as the designer handbag? You are, we are. Women were created to be helpers but we were created beautifully. We often underestimate our value in so many ways and don’t want to bring attention to ourselves. Why? I think I know the answer to that question.
Fear. We are afraid that if we believe we are the designer handbag that someone will tell we aren’t. We fear rejection, vunerablity , but we also fear being beautiful. My entire life I have feared these same things. Fear just eats away us. But I think one of my biggest fears is knowing what I know in my heart is true and that I can receive all these gifts, through sharing my gift. Even if I have been roughed up, worn out at times and torn in certain places. I know that there is a new designer handbag in my closet. The good news is I am not embarrassed to pull it out and use it, share it with the world.
That is the wonderful thing about handbags. If we didn’t choose the right one or the one we liked has had it time. As in life, with each new season we can get a new handbag and pick out exactly what we want. Ladies, let’s choose to accept the fact that we all have a designer handbag residing within us. If it’s not a handbag, well we all have something expensive that we are afraid to use. we’ve been saving it for a special occasion. It’s like fine china. A good friend once told me that she uses her fine china all the time because everyday is a special occasion. Every day is a special occasion and we need to live that way.
Let’s choose to put fear on the back burner, or better yet, lean in to the fear. You can get past it, the only way to know what is on the other side is to head straight for it. Get out that designer handbag and display it proudly. This is something that you have worked for, earned, or it was a gift that represents how the good in your heart that you have shared.
True beauty is on the inside, while we don’t truly need a designer handbag to show it, we are women and we are all beautiful in our own amazing way. Don’t hide behind it, embrace it and share it with others.
Danielle Wastson has a very unique business where she can tell you why you aren’t reaching your goals by the contents of your purse. She is in the picture above, if you would like to learn more click here.