My husband and I enjoy going out at least once a week to some of the local breweries near us. We have our favorites that we frequent, thus we’ve come to know some of the owners and staff. The other night while sitting at the bar I began talking to the gentleman next to me, who was an employee that was off for the evening. While I can’t recall how the conversation got underway, it didn’t take long for our conversation to unfold. I learned that he was a 28 year old single man, who worked for social services as his full-time gig. He works with older kids who are aging out of the system where he helps to get them enrolled in college or find a job. As I was listening to what he was saying, I thought; “he must find his job so rewarding“. So I asked him, turns out he doesn’t really like his job that much and it’s not where he thought he would be at this season in his life.
I continued to talk with him and learned that he has a degree in music and has his own band. When I asked him why he isn’t spending more time doing something with his music he indicated that he is a “realist” and that the “music business is just too hard.” Honestly, I was sadden by his response. Of course I don’t know this guy from the one sitting next to him, so I asked him what he was afraid of? It seems this guy has a pattern of doing things he doesn’t enjoy doing, because of his responsibilities. It was clear by his response that no one had asked him about his dreams in some time. Our conversation continued and I truly hope that he does follow his dreams. By the end of our conversation I uncovered that he really wanted to join the Peace Corps. and had actually been to two recruiting meetings in the past. Yet he still hadn’t joined. Why, you might ask…Fear.
What I learned from talking with him is that everyone struggles with fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of change and fear of success. It doesn’t matter what it looks like the commonality is FEAR. If a 28 year old man who seemingly has everything going for him is afraid to follow his dreams then he isn’t that much different from the rest of us. So how do we get over that thing we are so afraid of? It’s simple. We confront it and face it. If you don’t move toward your fear then it will likely haunt you for a long time and you will be chained to it. This is such a horrible feeling, being chained to the very thing you don’t like. It’s like living in the dark for a period of time knowing that there is a flash light in the room with you but you can’t find it or your are too afraid to try to find it.
To be clear, know the difference between a healthy fear and an unhealthy fear. For example, thinking of jumping off a 20 story building without any safety gear. This is a healthy fear, don’t jump off the building. The fear of starting a new job, business or following your dream, this is your mind playing tricks on you. This is the kind of fear you need to confront so that you can move past it. If we always play it safe or live in our comfort zone then we aren’t growing. Life is about learning and growing into the person we are meant to be.
Write down your dreams, goals and plans. Share them with a trusted friend and don’t let fear keep you from becoming the whole person you can be. Better yet, write down your fears to and share them with someone who you trust. Writing them down is the best way to acknowledge your fear and take away the power that you have given fear over your life and thoughts. Remember, you only get one chance to live this life. So if you want to travel the world, start your own business or find the love of your life..make a plan for it. You won’t ever get to where you want to be without a plan.
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