Imagine this, you are at a stop light sitting in your car with your significant other after a wonderful evening with dear friends. Staring out the windshield waiting for the red light to turn green, in the midst of some normal chit chat about the previous dinner conversation. Then something gets your attention, you’re not sure exactly what it was because it happened so fast followed by a never ending stream of police cars with their sirens blazing. Your significant other, or my husband in this case, says, “You just witnessed a high speed chase”.
The police cars pass and the light turns green, so you continue down your path with caution. Moving further and further away from the situation as you start to feel a sense of relief the closer you get to home. Now only two stop lights away from that glorious destination; you find yourself faced with yet another dilemma. The high speed chase is now coming right toward you.
Isn’t that the case in our lives sometimes? We feel like everything is going status quo, we feel good, we are surrounded by great people who we enjoy being around. Then all of a sudden everything thing changes in an instant and we are faced with a situation or circumstance that appears to have come from nowhere. We are automatically in fight or flight mode. Do we run and hide or stand firm and run into the situation?
While it may feel like some things come from nowhere, there is always a root. The place where it began, it may have absolutely nothing to do with you and sometimes we are bystanders. Like the story I mentioned, just sitting in the car driving home, minding our own business. Here’s what I think is important to receive when life presents opportunities that challenge us.
Consider taking a breath and responding rather than reacting. While sitting in the car I was really scared, my cousin died a few years ago in a high speed chase. She was on her way home from work, newly expectant mother, when her life tragically ended because some stole a vacuum cleaner. Bad things happen to good people all the time. That is reality. Though I was scared and wanted to take a different route home, I chose to stick with the plan and proceed with caution. In doing so I/we, were much more alert. No radio, no cell phones, totally tuned in to our surroundings and only talking to share necessary information.
There is something to be said for adrenaline. I felt really alive on the way home and a bit concerned that that could change in an instant. Perhaps if we spent more time living our lives we would experience adrenaline in it’s purest form. So often we allow our lives to happen to us and merely pass by.
To receive life means to live it, to be in it, active physically, emotionally, spiritually, and everything in between. When you see people living, there is something so attractive about these people. They don’t hold on to the past, grudges and are not judgmental. In all honesty none of that stuff brings any kind of fulfillment. Rather it weighs us down and holds us back. One of the biggest fears of all people isn’t to die, on the contrary it’s living.
So there we were, sitting at another red light. Sirens blazing, red and blue lights flashing up and down the street, and a silver blazer heading our direction. Fully aware and ready to take action, the blazer makes a right turn. Into our friends tiny neighborhood, with only one way in and out. Our friends who have small children. Thankful to be safe for the moment and moving further and further away from the situation, I called my friends to alert them, praying they were not outside walking the dogs. Thankfully they had just returned home from their evening walk and were safe. Everyone was safe, there were no injuries and the chase ended about 6 doors down from our friends’ home.
What would you do? If I were to ask someone close to you about your life, would they say you live your life or let it pass you by? Do you receive life or set up barriers? When was the last time you got completely lost, (fully embraced) in relationships, nature, activity, passion? Maybe you’re like many of my clients and have forgotten how to get embrace your life, can’t remember what you were once passionate about.
The solution is to say yes to life and stop putting up barriers. Of course I’m not suggesting you do anything that will break laws or cause pain to another. What I am saying is: when someone asks you to do something or you think that you might want to do something; stop with the excuses of why not to do it and come up with the reason to do it. Say yes to you and your dreams. We have DVR’s now so you can watch TV anytime, the sun doesn’t shine everyday so get out and enjoy this one wild and crazy life. Be present, say yes, live your life, don’t watch it pass you by.