This season of my life and marriage have been a rather unusual one. As I rung in 2016 I found myself more hopeful than usual; but then quickly got the wind kicked out of me. I’m not usually the kind of person who waits for anything. In fact, I’m more known as the woman who has mastered the art of multitasking. Yet somehow 2016 has been a year of waiting for me, and ladies and gentlemen, the wait is over. So how did I get into this waiting pattern? More importantly, how am I moving myself out it, to begin living again? I’m so glad you asked!
As my husband and I are on the cusp of becoming empty nesters, while I’m quickly approaching my 40th birthday; we somehow are in this really strange place. I think for the first time in our lives we are beginning to come into our true selves, but at different times. Which has caused some friction to say the least. This years been a growing season, which as taught me a lot about life, love, family & business. However, as I’ve been expanding myself; let’s just say I’m a little bit ahead of him right now. Which is exactly how I began waiting.
Anyone who knows me, knows how much my family and husband mean to me. They are my lifeblood. At the same time they are expanding and beginning to explore the world on their own. Which is good, but let me tell you, it’s hard. [Truth is, I’ve always gotten a little choked up when the baby birds fly from the nest.] Now “flying the nest” is my reality. Don’t get me wrong, I am super excited for my kiddo’s, who they are and what they are bringing to the world. Selfishly, I’d love to keep them by my side just a tad bit longer.
All this to say, I’ve been waiting. Waiting for my husband, my kids, my _____, fill in the blank. I’ve been indecisive and noncommittal. All, characteristics that are foreign to me. It hasn’t felt good, I’ve been distracted, and have physically suffered. One of the things that I enjoy teaching and am passionate, about is leadership. Someone pointed out my waiting pattern, and also kicked my ass reminding me that when we are in a waiting pattern, we are not leading. OUCH!
I needed the reality check to move back into action. Life is always going to be happening around us, we get to choose if we are going to wait or do. Part of my waiting was because I wanted to be in the moment and feel. To be present, but then somehow I got stuck there. Great leaders can find the balance of being present, and maintaining action.
This season of life, as are many, is all about transition. Honestly, I’m even changing my perspective about this season, to be one of possibility. Rather than view things as coming to a close, the end of an era, I’m beginning to see it more and more as the beginning of the best time in my life. It’s the starting point.
Maybe you’re not about to become an empty nester. It doesn’t really matter where you are in life. We all experience life through a specific lens. What’s becoming clear to me, is that the only person that can get you out of waiting, the fear of the unknowns in life, is you. We must each own responsibility for ourselves and our choices. Only then, are we free to explore possibilities that far exceed our imagination.
Perhaps you don’t want to take responsibility. You could be stuck in resentment or bitterness, or maybe you just don’t know how to begin. Owning your truth and choosing for you, may seem like an unheard of concept. If that’s you, reach out to me. I’d love to hear from you and it would be an honor to chat and see if I can offer some help.
Everyone deserves to be happy. Everyone. How would your life look if you decided to stop waiting and start living? Why not begin today.